In this article, we’ll look at the correct ways to communicate with your ex, so that you don’t sound desperate and too eager for them to come back. There are right and wrong protocols in order to achieve this, but the very first thing to remember is this…
First of all you MUST give your ex a period of time so that they can get a chance to miss you.
This is simply key, because if you’re always and constantly in touch – always emailing, always begging for another chance (and so on), there is just no way that your ex will be able to get a chance to miss you!
So, only after a longish period of time should you actually try and initiate some form of contact. Happily, this can be done in a variety of casual and breezy ways. For example, if you happen to have one of her old DVDs, or any of her possessions – you can use this as a way of initiating contact. Something really simple like… “hey, you left your Family Guy box set at mine. Do you want it?”
One thing that you may want to keep in mind, is that if your ex does contact you with something seemingly small (like a Family Guy box set) it could be that he or she is trying to initiate contact with you. Looks like they beat you to the punch. Of course, it could also just as easily be that they ACTUALLY only want to return your things, so if you find yourself on the receiving end of such a communication, you’re NOT to blurt out how terribly you have missed them and how things have not been, and never shall be the same ever again without them. It would set your reconciliation attempts back quite a bit.
This leads into another key thing that you must understand that will help you both in getting your ex back – or if that doesn’t work, at least it will help with your future relationships:
Only YOU Are The Master Of Your Own Destiny And Happiness!
Not your ex. There is a rather misleading almost “hollywoodesque” portrayal of relationships being the be all and end all of life. We are given endless romantic movies of some picture perfect relationship which in reality just does not exist.
The simple fact is, you do not need another person in your life when you actually think about it deeply. In fact, in many cases, another person can complicate life because they always come with their own baggage, problems and issues. If you actually embrace the good things about being single, and enjoy your single life – it will rub off on your persona and how you interact with everyone, including your ex, and make you seem to be a well rounded, confident person that people will want to be with.
The more you understand human behaviour, the more you realize that getting into a relationship that you want, be that your ex or anyone else, actually involves appearing comfortable, happy and easy going in your own skin as a single person.